How To Get A Sexy Girl In Bed

How To Get A Sexy Girl In Bed

If you've been having a dry spell lately, then you'll want to learn how to get a sexy girl in bed. Knowing how to get a sexy girl in bed may seem like a long lost art, but is really a lot easier than you think. It doesn't involve having a wallet full of money or even a body like The Situation. In reality, if you want to get a sexy girl in bed, all you need to do is be your charming, funny,and charismatic self while treating her like a lady. Don't stress out, always keep your head in the game and you'll find that it's criminally easy to be able to get a sexy girl in bed.

1.Present yourself well. This involves showering, cleaning up and wearing some nicer clothing. Sorry, but if you stink like nobody's business, have a scruffy neck beard and you're wearing an "I Heart Dwarves" shirt, chances are you're not going to be able to get a sexy girl in bed. It sucks, but sometimes you have to conform to some societal pressures. In this respect, be sure to smell nice and clean up your face—shave and, if necessary, invest in some good facial wash to clean up your skin. As for your clothes, you don't need to be wearing Gucci or Prada, but if you can find a nice clean collared shirt, some dark wash jeans and a pair of dark shoes, you should be good.

2.Be proactive. Don't think that sulking in the corner of the dance club is going to get you laid, even with some deplorable pity sex. It's time for you to nut up and approach the sexy girl you want to take to bed. It conveys confidence in a sense that you take the first step towards getting what you want. It's not as complicated as you think. Walk up to her, smile, offer to buy her a drink and start talking—it's really that simple.

3.Be confident, but not cocky. You might be sitting at the bar wondering, "Why do all the jerks get the hot girls?" It's not that girls are attracted to schmucks, per say, but they are attracted to confidence. By having a can-do attitude and not worrying over everything that she'll say, you're putting yourself in a great positions to bring a sexy lady back home for the evening. Show her that you can do things on your own right and you don't need someone else's validation to make you feel good about yourself. It's about the sexiest thing you can do.

4.Don't worry about rejection. You're not going to be able to get a sexy girl to bed on your first try. Maybe not even your third or fifth try, but it will happen. As long as you keep your head up and keep on trying, the law of averages will unfold in your favor and one of these sexy girls out will find you positively charming. If you get too caught up on whether or not you take her home, you'll start fumbling your speech and acting like someone who doesn't know what he's doing. Hot girls can smell fear, so be sure to mask that stench with the airy musk of confidence and not caring if you actually score that night.

Many people feel that it's nigh impossible to get a sexy girl in bed. We can tell you that even if you have a hairy back, a terrible job and an bad car, you too can get a sexy girl in bed by following these tips and guidelines. Don't feel that you need to perform any special techniques or wear spectacular brand name clothing in order to be able to get a sexy girl in bed. As long as you portray yourself in your best light, the ladies will be clawing to get a piece of you.

November 24, 2017 ·   0

Questions You Always Wanted to Ask a Porn Star

10 Questions You Always Wanted to Ask a Porn Star 
"You have to just let yourself go and trust your partner. And use loads of lube."

Photo courtesy of Bettina Habig

This article originally appeared on VICE Germany

At the start of her career, Bettina Habig made porn part-time, combining it with her work as a dental assistant in Münster, a town in western Germany. That changed in 2013, when she won a Venus Award – the most prestigious prize in the German sex industry – for her role in the film One Night in Bang Cock. Her boss found out about her side job and fired her. From that moment, Bettina focused full-time on her porn career – she's now made over a hundred films and is one of Germany's most successful porn stars.

Her stage name is Texas Patti, with "Texas" referring to a signature act she does with the American flag, and "Patti" being a mix of the shortened version of her own name – Betti – and her husband Patrick's name. She shot her first video with Patrick eight years ago, and he also works as her manager. They have the same tattoo – "Nur für dich" (only for you) written on their pubic areas.

It's clear that things are going well for Texas Patti, but when I met up with her to find out what life is like when you're a successful porn star, she wouldn't tell me how much she earns exactly. "I make more money now than I did as a dental assistant," is all she cared to say. She did explain to me what she thinks about illegal downloading and vaginal bleaching, and told me to lube up

VICE: Do you ever have to do things on shoots you don't really want to do? 
Texas Patti: Never. Before we start, the producers tell me what they want, and then it's up to me to agree to that or not. I would never shoot BDSM scenes, for example. It's just not for me, sexually. I'm free to walk off the set if I'm not happy with anything, but I've never had to do that.

It's important to be completely comfortable when you're making porn, because you need to be in the mood for it. If you're only doing it for the money, it's unlikely you will get very far.

Is there anything you do in films but never with your husband?
No, not really. There are some positions that might look good on film but are too straining to do at home, or you'd do them differently. When you're doing doggy style on camera, for example, you need to hold in your stomach so your tummy doesn't just hang there. When my husband takes me from behind at home, I just relax my stomach. He knows my body and, honestly, he can't even see my belly from behind.

How do you make sure anal doesn't hurt? You have to just let yourself go and trust your partner. And use loads of lube. But if something hurts, you should stop or not even attempt it in the first place. When I started, I didn't shoot any anal scenes because I wasn't doing it at home and lacked the experience. But now I love it.

Do you do vaginal or anal bleaching? 
Absolutely not. I think it's a stupid thing to do and it's bad for your body. Your pussy and anus are just darker naturally, you shouldn't have to bother with bleaching cream. If I didn't like how I looked, I wouldn't put my body on camera.

What's your opinion on the rosebud – which is when the walls of your rectum collapse and come out of your anus, but instead of it just being a medical condition, it's also a fetish in extreme anal porn? 
Some women in the scene do it, but I don't like it. I think it's really risky, and also I don't find it attractive at all – it turns me off.

How do you feel about people downloading your work illegally?This is how I earn a living, so obviously I want people to pay for my videos. On top of that, illegal downloading is destroying the industry. When I meet fans at adult conventions and they brag about how they've seen all my films, I sometimes ask where they got them from. Some do say, like, "a friend sent it to me." I usually tell them that maybe one day I won't be able to appear at conventions anymore if they keep watching my films for free.

Do you ever worry about being infected with HIV in your work? 
The risk partly depends on what kind of production company you're with. In the professional German shoots I do, condoms are optional – but all actors get tested every four weeks. That's not the case with more amateur companies, where stars rarely get tested, if at all.

Would you star in what's being labeled as female-friendly or feminist porn?
No, because I don't think mainstream porn is sexist. Personally, I love being submissive during sex and like living that out on camera. I wouldn't want to suppress my own desires because some feminists think it's bad.

Can you teach me how to squirt?
I can lend you my husband if you like. I didn't even know squirting existed until 11 years ago. During our first time together, Patrick fingered me and suddenly it just started shooting out of me. I was really embarrassed about the whole thing because my bed was soaking wet. When I asked him about it, he explained that I had squirted. But I can't just make myself do it, or teach you.

Do you think God approves of your job?God says that we should love each other and multiply. In that respect, I think there's nothing wrong with my work because sex and nudity are completely normal – it's not something we should cover up. My parents used to take me to nudist beaches when I was a child and they know about my job, but, obviously, they don't watch my films.

Correction: The answer to the question "Do you ever worry about being infected with HIV in your work?" was amended to reflect the fact that porn actors in professional shoots in Germany get tested every four weeks. The regularity of HIV tests for porn actors differs per country.

November 24, 2017 ·   0

5 Things That Only Happen In Porn

5 Things That Only Happen In Porn

Don’t expect them to come true in the bedroom

By now, you’ve probably realized that a hot-and-horny delivery girl isn’t going to show up at your doorstep every time you dial Domino’s. But that doesn’t mean you’re exempt from the sexual lies porn tells.

“Most people think porn is a reflection of what’s actually happening in the bedroom—like, this is just showing people doing what they do,” says Ana Bridges, Ph.D., a University of Arkansas psychologist who studies the effects of pornography on romantic relationships.

But the truth is, porn pushes the sexual envelope to satisfy our easily bored brains—which means some weird stuff may make its way onto your screen.

“It could potentially expand your repertoire,” says Bridges, “but it could also narrow it.”

Translation: If you think everybody is doing what you see, you may fixate on those few acts as the definition of “good sex”—and end up limiting yourself in the sack.

Related: How to Pleasure a Woman—the Men’s Health Complete Guide to Becoming a Master Lover

So which moves should you leave to the pros? And which sexpectations should you let go of? Read on to find out.

1. DOUBLE PENETRATION.

In a recent analysis of best-selling pornography, Bridges determined that nearly one in five scenes featured double penetration. Yet in a soon-to-be-released study, a research team including Bridges found that only 3 percent of men and 1 percent of women have actually tried this two-penis act.

“In real life, it would be incredibly uncomfortable, if not painful, for women,” says Justin Sitron, Ph.D., an assistant professor of human sexuality at Widener University.

Try this instead: Part of the pleasure—for men, at least—is the vaginal tightness that doubling up creates. You can replicate that without bringing in backup: Simply rub your penis between her tightly clinched thighs, Sitron suggests, or experiment with the WeVibe, a vibrator designed to be comfortably inserted inside her along with your penis.

2. SHE MOANS THE ENTIRE TIME.

If women were as easily aroused as they act in porn, they’d be in the throes of an orgasm all day long.

“It’s unrealistic ecstasy,” says Bridges. “Every single touch, from the looks and sounds of it, is orgasm-inducing.”

(Want to know what really does bring her to climax? Try these 3 Ways to Stimulate Her Clitoris.)

The unfortunate reality: An Emory University study found that 75 percent of women have faked it—and are more likely to do so if they think you’ll fall for it. We’re guessing that 20 minutes of non-stop, on-screen moaning might make you a little more gullible.

Try this instead: If your sack sessions are eerily silent, suggest turning on porn in the background for a little aural inspiration, says Sitron. If she’s not open to bringing Jesse Jane into the bedroom, you can create a playlist of songs with sexually suggestive lyrics to inspire both of you to let loose.

3. EXTREME DIRTY TALK.

Nearly half of the scenes in popular porn include name-calling, according to Bridges’ analysis. What’s the point of all the slut talk?

“It’s a reminder that she’s a bad girl, so it’s okay to treat her this way,” says Bridges. “She’s not somebody to be treasured.”

The real-world stats: 20 percent of women have actually experienced this in the bedroom—and almost all of them didn’t like it. No surprise there: “Real people don’t enjoy being put down,” says Sitron.

Try this instead: You can take control in the bedroom—even verbally—without calling your girlfriend a whore.

“Talk dirty in a question format, rather than a degrading format,” says Sitron.

So for example, you might ask, “Can I spank you?” or “Can I pull your hair?”—whatever it is you want to try. That way, you’re getting permission to take control, which makes her feel a little less powerless.

4. THE MONEY SHOT.

Ejaculating on her face is proof that what you’re looking at is real, Bridges says. That may explain why male porn stars climax anywhere but her vagina 81 percent of the time.

Bridges also found that about two-thirds of people have replicated this act—but here’s where reality differs from porn: 80 percent of women didn’t like the idea of a guy finishing on her face or in her mouth.

“The reaction in porn is very different,” says Bridges. Read: The actresses act like it’s absolute ecstasy.

Try this instead: For starters, don’t ask to ejaculate on her face 30 seconds prior.

“In the heat of the moment, people may consent to doing things they’re not necessarily into,” says Sitron.

So take some time outside the bedroom to figure out what she’s cool with—if not her face, maybe on her stomach, breasts, or back.

5. HE’S INSTANTLY HARD.

You’ll never see a flaccid penis in porn—which can make the idea of whipping it out while you’re limp a little embarrassing.

“Porn creates this script that we have to be aroused from the moment we get naked—and that seeing your penis soft will be a letdown,” says Sitron.

In fact, Bridges’ research shows that the more a man watches pornography, the more likely he is to feel insecure about the size of his penis or the adequacy of his erection.

Related: What Women Really Think About Your Penis Size

Try this instead: Stop obsessing over what’s happening downstairs, and focus on connecting with your partner.

“Guys tend to see sex as a game to win or a sport to play, rather than as a shared experience or a trust-building opportunity,” says Sitron. “Accept that sex is a vulnerable experience—more than just a penis and a vagina.”

So let the process of becoming erect be part of the erotic experience.

“Letting your partner get you hard—letting her connect with you in that way—can be arousing in and of itself,” Sitron says.

November 24, 2017 ·   0

Why I won’t date hot women anymore

Why I won’t date hot women anymore

Dan Rochkind at Mel's Burger BarStephen Yang

When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.

“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair. “I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.”

Dan Rochkind used to date swimsuit models, but he’s happier now that he’s engaged to a merely beautiful woman, Carly Spindel (right).Stephen Yang

He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.

“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says. “Eventually, I was dreading getting dinner with them because they couldn’t carry a conversation.”

According to new research, Rochkind’s ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct. A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships. In one part, the researchers looked at the top 20 actresses on IMDb and found that they tend to have rocky marriages. In another, women were asked to judge the attractiveness of 238 men based on their high school yearbook photos from 30 years ago. The men who were judged to be the best-looking had higher rates of divorce.

Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two are now happily engaged.

“People who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld.JB Imaginative

The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.

“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown. “Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.”

Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. Rochkind proposed to her last May in Central Park. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.

“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says. “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.”

Carly has no qualms about how her future husband views her compared with his exes.

“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says. “Looks fade.”

Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.

“When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her,” says Isabell Giardini, a 22-year-old Italian beauty signed with Major Models. “And that’s why at the end of a date they wonder, ‘Oh that girl is so beautiful but so empty.’ That’s happened to me often.”

Sonali Chitre dumped her hot boyfriend because he was too vain.Pawel Lucas

Others say the stereotypes about pretty people being shallow are true, even if they’re hotties themselves.

“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis. But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.

After dating an athletic banker with model good looks for two years, Sonali Chitre, 34, has sworn off hotties.

“He was a Nazi about his diet and would work out hard-core and cared more about his body than just living life,” says Chitre, who broke up with the finance guy last October.

‘When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with. Looks fade.’

 - Carly Spindel

Chitre, an environmental lawyer and the founder of Priyamvada Sustainability Consulting, considers herself “a 9 or a 10,” but she says she’s done with gorgeous guys. Now, she’s more interested in “superballer” men with high-paying careers.

“I still want someone who’s in decent shape, but it’s more important to find a guy who’s goal-oriented,” she says. “[Beautiful men] are very into their bodies and don’t really care about people that much, or make time for their family.”

Megan Young, a 23-year-old p.r. woman from Hoboken, NJ, also changed her dating habits. The svelte, blue-eyed brunette used to exclusively date 6-foot-tall dudes who looked like Calvin Klein models.

“As a person who’s always been complimented on [my] ‘stunning beauty’ … I’d been searching for a ‘hot’ guy to match the label I had always been given,” says Young. “But after a date or two, they’ll have problems hanging out with you and then will ghost.”

Megan Young and her boyfriend, Christopher ArgeseCourtesy of Megan Young

Last year, she stopped putting looks at the top of her dating criteria on Bumble, instead opting for guys who traveled a lot and were “make the most out of their lives” types. In August 2016, she met Christopher Argese, a 27-year-old security technician. Unlike the square-jawed bachelors who disrespected her, Argese is more boy-next-door in the looks department. But he’s kind and attentive.

“He’s not a model, but he’s so much more attractive in who he is as a person,” Young says.

And best of all, she says, Argese doesn’t just see her as a status symbol.

“When I asked him why he loves me, he said that he loves my drive and my passion,” Young says.

Rochkind is equally enthusiastic about his decision to give up high-maintenance hotties.

“There’s something to be said about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system,” says Rochkind, who will marry Carly in June at a “Tuscan-romantic” ceremony at the Wölffer Estate Vineyard in the Hamptons. But he doesn’t regret his past.

“You don’t want to be the first to leave the party, but you don’t want to leave the party too late either,” he says. “Carly came at exactly the right time.”

November 22, 2017 ·   0

I Thought Men Should Be Paying On The First Date

I Thought Men Should Be Paying On The First Date – This Is Why I Changed My Mind

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Dating is when a boy meets a girl, to discover the right person, with whom they can spend the rest of their lives with. But there are many things associated with the first date and the most critical aspect is, as to who will be paying for the cheque? Well, traditionally, men have been paying because women like to be romanced, valued, appreciated and swept off their feet on the first date. Then, what changed the mind of this woman?

Also, read 12 Things Men Don’t Share About Their Manhood

Source: Metro

Here is an experience of a woman that changed the traditional norms of men paying on the first date!

The Tradition

Traditionally men are the ones who do the pursuing when it comes to dating. He has to prove his seriousness in being part of her life. Hence, planning and paying is very much his role. So, he needs to act as a gentleman, be thoughtful, courteous, and pay attention to her likes and dislikes.

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The Rule

There are two things a woman should never touch on a first date: The door, and the cheque.

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The Theory

If she’s the right woman, then she doesn’t want your car, your money, or gifts. All that she wants is your time, your effort, your honesty, your loyalty, and your respect, which are truly valuable.

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The Experience

A few weeks ago I went out on a date. It was the first date, with someone I’d met online, so we’d never met before. We got together in the evening and had dinner in a lovely restaurant.

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It wasn’t crazily expensive and I only had one glass of wine and no pudding. Throughout the meal, he’d been very gentlemanly, including holding the doors open for me coming in.

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We’d gotten along really well and he clearly liked me. When the bill arrived, I reached for my purse, as you do, while at the same time expecting him to tell me to put it away.

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‘Shall we go halves?’ I said. ‘That’s a good idea,’ he said. Wait for what? What added insult to injury was that he made no move to leave a tip, and so I had to leave that for both of us.

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I felt outraged. I couldn’t believe it. Wasn’t it simply good manners for a man at least to offer to pay for a first date, even if you ended up overruling him?

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When I shared my post-date outrage, however, reactions were mixed. Some people, (my mum), were appalled. Others, (my younger sister), looked incredulous.

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‘Why should he pay?’ she asked, genuinely puzzled. I didn’t quite know. ‘Because it’s nice?’ I offered, feebly.

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Somehow when faced with the direct question, I couldn’t really justify exactly why I felt that this man, who I had never met before, should be expected to pay for my dinner.

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So I thought about it. Quite a lot. And the more I thought about it, the less sense my own opinions made.

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Firstly, I was expecting someone else to pay for me just because they are a man. I mean that’s wrong on so many levels, isn’t it? How could I sit comfortably with that?

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Second, I didn’t actually want to go on another date with this person, and the fact that I had paid my share made this much easier. No sense of obligation, no guilt, just two grown-ups eating out.

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And finally, if you know you’re going to pay for yourself at the end, it doesn’t really matter how many glasses of wine you have does it? Go all out! Enjoy yourself!

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You’re a grown-up woman, in charge of your own life and paying for it too. I felt empowered by my new stance. So next time I go on a date I’ll definitely be going halves. And I may even have pudding.

November 22, 2017 ·   0